STOP SELF-DEFEATING THOUGHTS & BEHAVIORS
Sometimes there seems to be some unseen force, some undetectable presence which blocks our ability to succeed at things. Whether we are trying to shed a few pounds, stop a bad habit or rid ourselves of underlying negativity that nags away at us. This invisible force seems to stand like an impassable gate to the other side where happiness, feeling good and being better at things reside. And if we master it, we can learn How to STOP Self-Defeat and Negativity.
This unseen force is a very real thing and impedes our ability to feel that next level of joy, confidence and control over our lives. It exists in our mind, but it is not imaginary.
In our early childhood we are very impressionable. Parents, environment and all of our experiences condition us to be and to react to things in certain ways. As we grow up, our subconscious creates a model of the world to live by based on its own observations and experiences. Much of this is without our knowledge or permission.
By the time you even realize you have bad habits or negative thinking, you’ve had them for a long time and they are firmly entrenched in your behavioral mind.
Conscious Vs Subconscious
It can be difficult to break through this learned conditioning and when you fail at it, you might think it is your fault which makes you feel even worse. This is because the subconscious part of the mind is simply doing its job. It is unaware that the behavior is unhealthy so it simply enforces what it has been taught to believe and associate with. “Sub-conscious” means that which is partially unknown. Since we are unaware of what the conditioning is, we have a very difficult time changing it with conscious choices.
To change behavior you need to create a new behavior and that takes time and effort. Simple realizations are almost never enough and you need solid, strategy based methods. We also need to create new associations within the mind to make us feel differently about things. If you want to change the subconscious you must be able to understand it and then recondition it. Kind of like rewriting software for your computer!
Personal coaching/counseling combined with suggestibility/hypnotherapy are the two methods that I use as a professional to help people learn How to STOP Self-Defeat and Negativity. They are:
- Quicker than the self-directed method,
- Safer than medications and…
- Lead to even greater changes and even greater happiness about yourself and life.
Scott Spackey is a Certified Counselor, Life-Coach, Hypnotherapist, & Interventionist,